We now can see who is member of the same group as us...
Now we can see who is member of the same meetup group as us, we can even see who we know apparently.... What for? Is this really useful?? Do we need to follow people? Would it be possible to keep people's privacy? I personnaly don't like it. And I would vote for deleating this new tool...
Béatrice
shared this idea
This feature can be turned off in your account settings.
12 comments
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Grrrr
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Bad enough you don't care about your members and their safety but you didn't even bother saying how it can be turned off. I found no where in the user settings to turn it off.
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LT
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I'm actually here to "Meet up". I would like to be able to contact people that I have ATTENDED meetups with. I also like to be able to contact people that have signed up for a meeting in case we could carpool the long distances and traffic congestion across Los Angeles.
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Grrrr
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Whenever meetup adds a feature that lowers the already low level of privacy they are willing to offer it should be an "Opt In" feature.
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Cathryn from YMCA Connections
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Not a fan of this tool. Would like them to remove it for privacy reasons. I run an official meetup group for my workplace and don't think it's a great idea to have our clients know about my personal life and visa versa. It's about boundaries.
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K.F.
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Karenina, actually, I can't take credit for that comment... it was Catfify. :)
Anyway, you all have valid points however I do have to agree with Beatrice and Catfify; and although I know mine is a rather unique situation, there must be similar situations out there (or at least people that feel the same way) and so I think Beatrice's suggestion absolutely has merit. For me, here's why:I am what they call a "victim/witness" of a violent crime and the criminal case has been dragging out for years. Because I agreed to testify at trial against this person (formerly a friend), I have lost a lot of friendships but also gained a lot of support and respect from those closest to me. That's why I am here at meetup... the psychologist that is treating me for PTSD felt it was a good time to "rejoin the real world" and recommended this site to me. And she was right... I have been able to connect with some great people, had some fun times and hopefully, developed some lasting friendships.
But it doesn't alter the fact that I have had to change my lifestyle, even down to the way I spend my money. If I pick up a six-pack of beer on the way to watch the game at a friends house, I make sure to pay with cash. If I go to the movies, I make sure it's with a group of people... and preferably a group that includes several strong men! I am aware of what city I am in at all times so that if something should happen, I can call the correct police department (I have them all on speed dial). And when I joined meetup, my profile only includes my first name and a picture of myself taken at such a distance that it is unrecognizable. Why? Because I am afraid that when this finally goes to trial, the defense team will point at me and say, "Look at her her... she goes out and has fun, she's on meetup having a grand old time, look at all those pictures of her laughing and smiling, she goes to the liquor store and buys beer and hangs out with friends. Hardly the behavior of a victim!" they will say.
The point is, we are all here for our own reasons and for people like me (who desperately want to be as low profile as possible but still value what meetup has to offer), each member should be able to control how much of themselves to openly share.
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Catfify
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karenina, respectfully, not everyone has to be like you to be equally a good a person as you. Different levels of inclusivity are measured with different tools. We're not bad MU people because we don't want everything about us publicized, we just have slightly different world views than you.
And, if you'll pardon me, I don't mean to offend you, but I wonder if you're do enthusiastic about this venue that you're overlooking some truths about human nature.
I, myself, had a very uncomfortable experience in a group with an individual who began a strong political and religious discussion online once she ferreted out some information about some other group memberships by just listening to some private conversations at a meeting and I don't ever want to have to sort that out again.
Thank you for your careful consideration of Beatrice's suggestion. I, for myself, understand that it does not fit for you.
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karenina
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KF says "I have gone a long time without knowing that I share membership in another group with someone. We might never attend the same meetup." Ok, well so be it. However, you have had access to Member list forever, just bc you dont use it doesnt mean MU should remove access to it. I like perusing my members. Ill chat with them bc they are there, and they are members. PHysical MU are great. But MU online actually offers a tad more that that limited venue of happy hour, no?
" I' saying, and I think Beatrice is saying we don't want others to know what other groups we share." Well, then, just dont join those groups. REally! if youre already member in the same group dont be mad at MU for saying youve both chosen to join with like-minded individuals. Its "meetup," its NOT "sit in darkness by oneself." M e e t U p. Private No. Inclusive Yes. -
K.F.
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I understand the concept and goal of meetup.com but each member should still be able to control their level of exposure within the meetup community. Please?
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Catfify
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Dee, you're mis-understanding Beatrice. I have gone a long time without knowing that I share membership in another group with someone. We might never attend the same meetup. I' saying, and I think Beatrice is saying we don't want others to know what other groups we share. I may never mention a mutual group affiliation.
It feels a bit harsh to judge someone as a non-Meetup person because they might see things a bit differently than you. I'm not sure there's a code of beliefs for meetup membership.
I understood exactly what I was voting for.
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dee
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"We now can see who is member of the same group as us.." << That is an extremely poorly presented "Suggestion" Title. THINK! What would it mean to vote FOR this Suggestion?= a supportive vote for "we now can see who our fellow group members are"?
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dee
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Guess What! When you actually participate in groups you join, YOU CAN SEE WHO YOUR MEMBERS ARE, and guess what, THEY CAN SEE THAT YOU ARE A MEMBER TOO! The only "privacy" offered is when someone who ISNT in a private group of yours is unable to see the members (including you,) because they arent a member = thats your privacy. No such thing as INTRA GROUP PRIVACY, which is what youre asking for. You dont sound like "a meetup person" if you join a group you dont want your members to know youre in..... jus sayin.
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Catfify
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I have to agree with this. I belong to a some groups that are politically and socially sensitive. Mutual meetup members have agreed to not acknowledge that association in certain other groups. Not everything needs to be shared with casual associates.
